An Intimate Gathering 

I found this old picture that “P” had taken last year, the morning after we had been out for dinner and drinks. It has me thinking about intimacy in relationships. How do you define intimacy? What experiences do you have that are truly intimate? I’m not talking about sexual intimacy, to be clear. I’m talking about true intimacy, where you and your partner know each other completely, and are comfortable letting go. These are the moments that help to build a relationship, to allow two people to maintain closeness, and are the things that go unseen by the outside world. Intimacy is the place where you create your relationship “bubble”. Continue reading


Drinking Games: Poison Edition 

Adjusting to a relationship’s end can be accompanied by an array of feelings that are not so great (bitterness, resentment, anger, jealousy, etc.). Scratch that. Real talk: it’s an emotional roller coaster, and it just plain sucks. Learning to be single again is hard, living without the person you once loved so much can be excruciating, and while some days are easy, there are other days that feel like you are trying to escape a dark, emotional quicksand. You know what I’m talking about: you Continue reading

A Dichotomy Personified


Is there anyone out there whose sense of self is so ardent, that he or she exists only in black and white? Is anyone truly unwavering about who they are, what they want, or how they feel? Is it better to be stable and steadfast about yourself and life? Or could it be that allowing yourself the freedom to choose what makes you happy ‘in the moment’ is best? We all know the old saying about the grass being greener Continue reading

Defining Moments


There are people, places, things (all of the nouns), and moments that define us. We are a product of our life experiences. How we approach life, each other, and ourselves has been shaped by various personal moments in time. If we look very carefully at ourselves, we can almost pinpoint where a specific behavior, interest, or disdain came from.   Continue reading

Optimism Counts. Period.

4733920397_23ae87f1f3_zClose your eyes for a moment. Wait. No, read this first and THEN close your eyes. I want you to think about how you viewed life and it’s possibilities when you were a child. What did you want to be when you grew up? Did you believe in Santa Claus? Did you read fairy tales, and believe the happy endings? Did you think that life was full of endless possibilities, that people were innately good, and that everything always ended up working out in the end?  Did you see the world through rose-colored glasses? Continue reading