I’ve dated all of the wrong men (so you won’t have to!)

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Hi. I’m the lesser known Taylor Swift of dating. This year marks my second decade of dating!  I know how exciting this is, and you’re welcome to throw me a party to celebrate (please feel free to bring along some wine). It’s been an interesting twenty years, and I’m going to drop some wisdom on you about the different types of men out there (and who to stay away from). Let’s jump in, shall we? Continue reading

Listen to your girlfriends; Listen to yourself 


Ladies, if there is anyone out there who knows you better than you know yourself, it’s your girlfriends. The women who are you closest confidants, your soul mates, and the people who you end up having the deepest, and most meaningful relationships with. Your girlfriends are your people. These are the women who will support your dumb choices, and who will never say that they “told you so” when you don’t listen to their advice. They are the women who know your soul, who know every move your going to make before you make it, and who care for you when life doesn’t turn out like you’d planned. Listen to the advice that your girlfriends give you! They know you better than anyone, and they are probably right!  Continue reading

Fear of commitment (and a wake up call)

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Committing to another person seems like one of the craziest things one can do. It’s not in our nature to spend our entire lives with only one person. Save for a few animals (penguins, lobsters, etc.), remaining with only one partner isn’t something that is natural to us at the core of our being. Commitment takes away freedom for personal exploration. It takes away our sense of independence and free will. It requires that we place the feelings of another above our own. Commitment removes the opportunity to be guiltlessly promiscuous. Continue reading

An Intimate Gathering 


I found this old picture that “P” had taken last year, the morning after we had been out for dinner and drinks. It has me thinking about intimacy in relationships. How do you define intimacy? What experiences do you have that are truly intimate? I’m not talking about sexual intimacy, to be clear. I’m talking about true intimacy, where you and your partner know each other completely, and are comfortable letting go. These are the moments that help to build a relationship, to allow two people to maintain closeness, and are the things that go unseen by the outside world. Intimacy is the place where you create your relationship “bubble”. Continue reading

Drinking Games: Poison Edition 

Adjusting to a relationship’s end can be accompanied by an array of feelings that are not so great (bitterness, resentment, anger, jealousy, etc.). Scratch that. Real talk: it’s an emotional roller coaster, and it just plain sucks. Learning to be single again is hard, living without the person you once loved so much can be excruciating, and while some days are easy, there are other days that feel like you are trying to escape a dark, emotional quicksand. You know what I’m talking about: you Continue reading

A Dichotomy Personified

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Is there anyone out there whose sense of self is so ardent, that he or she exists only in black and white? Is anyone truly unwavering about who they are, what they want, or how they feel? Is it better to be stable and steadfast about yourself and life? Or could it be that allowing yourself the freedom to choose what makes you happy ‘in the moment’ is best? We all know the old saying about the grass being greener Continue reading